Talking to a Loved One About Their Addiction

How to Talk to Someone You Love About Their Addiction

You don’t get a guidebook for this.

When someone you love has an addiction, it’s not always loud or obvious. Sometimes, it’s subtle. Other times, it’s chaos. And in the middle of all that, you’re left wondering… should I say something? What do I even say?

If you’ve asked yourself how to talk to someone you love about their addiction, you’re not alone. There’s no perfect way. But there are honest ways—and they matter more than you think.

Don’t start with solutions

When you talk to someone you love about their addiction and see they’re struggling, your instinct might be to fix it. But most people living with addiction don’t need a lecture. They need to feel like they’re still worth something.

Try starting small:
“I’ve been worried. I don’t want to lose you. I’m here.”

That opens the door better than any plan ever could.

The when and where matters

Don’t bring it up in the middle of a fight. And definitely not when they’re under the influence. Look for a quiet moment. A car ride. A walk. The kind of space where honesty has room to land.

You won’t feel ready. Say it anyway.

Be real, not rehearsed

You don’t have to sound like a therapist. In fact, please don’t. People feel fakeness.

Say what you feel, not what you think you’re supposed to say. Something like:
“This has been on my heart. I don’t know the right words, but I care about you more than you know.”

You’re not trying to win. You’re trying to connect.

What if they shut down?

They might. That doesn’t mean you failed.

Just saying something is an act of love. Even if it doesn’t go anywhere right away, you’ve planted a seed. They heard you, even if they couldn’t show it.

That matters.

How to help someone with addiction without losing yourself

If you’re wondering “how do I help someone with a drug addiction?” it’s okay to admit: you’re tired. You love them. But you’re not built to carry this on your own.

Offering help is good. Carrying guilt is not.

Say:
“If you ever want to talk to someone, I’ll help you find someone. I’ll even go with you.”

And also say:
“I need support too.”

That’s not selfish. It’s necessary. 

If you pray, pray

Some days, there won’t be anything else you can do. That’s when people turn inward. If faith is part of your life, say a prayer for someone struggling with addiction. Light a candle. Sit quietly. Let hope stay in the room.

Even if they don’t feel it yet, you do. And that counts.

Final thought

There’s no single right way to do this. But if you’ve gotten this far, it means you care. And that care—genuine, uncomfortable, imperfect care—is the beginning of change.

If you’ve been asking yourself how to talk to someone you love about their addiction, it might be time to stop searching and start speaking.

When you’re ready, we’re here

At The Palms Recovery, we help families and loved ones have the hard conversations—with warmth, support, and no judgment. Always take the risk and talk to someone you love about their addiction. They’re going to be grateful for life.

If you are loving someone with an addiction and you need someone to walk with you through this, we’re here.

Get help now!

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